Saturday, January 10, 2009

It's Just Hair

When it comes to clothes, makeup and hair, I'm a girly girl. Especially with my hair. I love to experiment and I have worn it long, short, braided and with cornrows. But for the last couple of years, I've been in a hair rut - sticking with pretty much the same look.

This past Wednesday, I saw a photo of Victoria Beckham (yes - Posh Spice from the Spice Girls) and she had the cutest short haircut. I showed it to a few people and they all liked it. Well, I saw my mom today and her eyes widened. "Your hair! You already cut it?"

"Well, duh," I said, "What did you think I was going to do?"

And you know what she said? "I don't know. You just bought this up a couple of days ago."

My response? "What's the big deal? It's just hair."

Sometimes we make things so difficult. We labor over the small things, agonizing over decisions when it's really not that serious. We are so afraid of making the wrong decision that we end making no decision. The result? Hours turn into days. Days turn into weeks. Weeks turn into months. Months turn into years. And five years later, you realize you are no closer to what you want and you ask yourself "Where did all the time go?"

My suggestion - don't delay. "Just Do It." If it's the wrong decision, at least you now know what not to do. But what if it's the right decision? You'll probably wonder why you waited so long.

When you ask yourself: "What's the worst that can happen?" The answer is usually not as bad as you think.
  • Cut all your hair and don't like it? In today's world, you can fix that in an instant. Just visit your local hair store.

  • Thinking about going back to school and not sure what you want to major in? Take a class and figure it out as you go. I'm sure there are some classes you have to take regardless of your major. Besides, it's by taking classes that you'll find what you like and what you're good at.

  • Interested in cooking? You don't have to go to the Culinary Institute of America. You can take a class at your local community college. Community college is a great way to dabble in something before going full steam ahead.

  • Want to make more money? Write out all the contributions you make to your organization and on Monday, schedule a meeting with your boss and share it with him/her. End the meeting by asking for a raise - a specific amount. Or, tell him/her to outline what you have to do to get a promotion. Or, explore other opportunities at another company. There's more than one way to skin a cat (or in this case, make more money).

There's an old saying. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained. So, what are you "venturing"?

Remember, what's the worst that could happen?

As for my latest venture - I love it. But even if I didn't, it wouldn't have mattered. Why? Because it's just hair!


After: (thanks for the photos mom!)


  1. I LUV it! I was looking at your hair initially but then became COMPLETELY distracted with how different your face looks! The healthy eating, training, and haircut have all combined for a thinner/sleek look. Your weight loss is really apparent. Keep up the good work!

  2. IS just hair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I have had just about every length in the book and although I did like the short cut, it was extremely difficult to maintain b/c of the rapid hair growth hormone that I inherited from my daddy. Long hair is just easy for me b/c I can always go with a ponytail no matter how fast it grows.
    I know that this post is not just about hair and is far deeper...make a decision one way or another!!! I completely agree with you Doreen.
    Keep the great blogs coming.
    And BTW...I love the new look!!!!!
    Jocelyn AKA iNDIGO

  3. Looking good and I agree like the Nike slogan JUST DO IT!

  4. Tawana,
    Thanks for the compliment! Quite a few people have made comments about the change in my face. It's funny, because it's hard for me to see it! Comments like yours keep me motivated!

  5. Hi, Doreen! I have to agree with Tawana -- I noticed your haircut but also the change in your face! You are an inspiration to us all!

    Your message is also very important. I always felt the same -- it's just hair. But why not apply it to other aspects of your life? You really cannot make a wrong decision. You just have an experience and know which direction to take the next time. If you avoid making a decision altogether, you could be missing out on what could be a surprisingly great experience!

    Much love in the New Year!
    --Be loving, happy, yourself, free.

  6. Looking good. I agree with everyone about your face. Keep up all you are doing.

  7. Hey Doreen!

    Cute haircut!

    I just saw you a week ago and I know you have slimmed down, but now I can really see it in your face with the new!

    Keep up the good work!


  8. Hi Doreen! Thanks. This really helped me to accomplish some personal tasks this week.


  9. Hi Ola! I'm glad that this post helped you and that you were able to get some things done this week.

    And thanks to all who commented on my weight loss. I'm working to get fit!

    And Ria, you are right - you can apply this post to many areas of life.