
Or as complicated as: Am I doing a good job?
Everyday, we are presented with opportunities to tell the truth and be honest. And every day we choose not to. Why? For a variety of reasons:
We don’t care.
We don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
We don’t think it will make a difference.
We just don’t have the guts.
Example #1:
I was always amazed at the number of people who complain about a coworker not carrying their own weight, having a bad attitude, not being a team player, or not being open to other’s ideas or a different way of doing things. Yet, when the complaining employee has the chance to review this employee (as either their manager or during a 360 review), they put none of this down - instead, they give them high marks and great comments.
Example #2:
You knew before you got married that your fiancĂ©’s credit card debt was high. You also knew that your fiancĂ©’s spending habits demonstrated that more emphasis was placed on the here and now versus planning for a future. But when asked to share with your future spouse any concerns you have – before saying “I do” - you remained silent.
Example #3
Your friend or family member is constantly worried about their health. Their doctor has told them to lose weight, get their blood pressure under control, and that they are pre-diabetic. Yet, when they say they’ve done everything they can to lose the weight, you just sit and nod in agreement – even though you know they haven’t been on a walk, joined a gym, put down those fried foods or gave up sugary drinks.
I’ve been told I’m too honest. I’ve had family members walk away from a conversation

My question is: What’s too honest?
I thought when someone asked you a question or was soliciting your opinion, they wanted the truth. So why are they so surprised – or agitated – when I give it them? I think it's because very few people in this world tell the truth and most people in this world aren't used to hearing it.
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