Is Selfish a Dirty Word?

One of the biggest challenges people usually face is making decisions that are in their own best interest. Some believe that when they "put themselves first", "focus on their own interest", or "make a priority of their welfare", they are acting in an unacceptable way. They are acting selfishly.

By definition, selfish means concerned with one's own interest, benefits and welfare - regardless of others. Is there any surprise that the last thing people want to be labeled is the "s" word. The challenge comes in when we go too far on the other end of the spectrum - selfless. Giving in to the needs of everyone, everywhere, every time - regardless of your own priorities or what's best for you.

If you consistently ignore your own wants and needs for the sake of others, you can become resentful, bitter, and lose yourself. By continually allowing others to dictate how you spend your time, your energy and your resources, you may quickly find yourself completely drained. And the result? You have nothing left to give.

However, when you take care of yourself, investing in those things that make you happy, give you joy, that are important to you, and help you become your best person, it can be a win-win. You would have fostered fulfillment and satisfaction within yourself , while at the same time, allowing those around you to benefit from it. How? Because when you are at your best, you have more to give -and with a better attitude.

What are some ways you can begin the process of investing in you?

• Say no when necessary.
• Make your health a priority.
• Set aside time to focus on you.
• Spend time on your hobbies.

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Doreen Rainey is a Life Coach and Speaker who helps her clients Get RADICAL! Join her for her upcoming Get RADICAL Women's Retreat.  To find out more about all of her upcoming events, visit her website.